Give the Universe a rest, please.

So, to be a total spoiler, the message I got from the Universe to write today's blog post was: Give the Universe a rest, please. It can't keep up.

And this message was created by my own inability to seize the moment, live in the present, and all those "OMG I'm so grounded" types of being. 

Last year I was feeling way too triggered by social media.
Well. Not ALL social media, I still love YouTube, and I do still have a Facebook account. Well, ok, so... I was feeling way too triggered by Instagram. And I felt the need to take a break from it. Pause my account and see how it went. 

And I believe you are wondering what does instagram have to do with giving the Universe a rest? I'll get there. I promise. 

So, I decided to take a break from it, paused my personal account, and kept on living my life. And it was liveable.
Pretty liveable, to be honest.
Suddenly I didn't feel like I was missing on anything because I wasn't seeing what I could eventually be missing on. I didn't feel pressured to be outside, living a life I wasn't ready to live because I was too afraid of stepping outside of my comfort zone — both because of the pandemic and a colossal heartbreak. I wasn't feeling like I needed to be validated by others, because I wasn't seeing other people wanting to be validated. I became more in touch with who I am, who I want to be, and, especially, who I want to be with. No social media attached. 

And this is when I realised how hooked I was on something that is and was very toxic to me. At least at the moment.
(Just to be honest with you here for a moment: I do have other things in my life that are toxic to me that I can't let go of. I can't be preaching something without being honest with you. But some apples just taste too damn good for you to forget about them. If you know what I mean. — And yes. I made some fucked up Adam and Eve joke. I don't know either!) 

Social media is and was a blessing, in the way that it connects us, it brings us closer, gives us platforms to showcase our work, our creativity, and it can be an outlet.
But it is and was also a curse. And I'm not even trying to go into that "self-image" path. I'm talking about how it made everything TOO quick. I believe social media has made us jump into things without considering them, without thinking about them, without giving them time.  Or maybe it was the internet. But you see where I'm going here.

Social Media and the internet closed a communication gap, but it has also closed a very needed gap between our mind and our emotions. It has made me more impulsive, more prone to jump to conclusions, and more desperate to have that thing that I want, right here, right now. And can you see how unfair this is? For everybody?

We cannot, and should not, be at everybody's service every time of day. Some days we just want to be alone, doing our own thing, without thinking about anything else. But seeing that notification, having that urge to see iF ThEy PoStEd AnYtHiNg, scrolling endlessly and mindlessly trying to find something to share with somebody else so that they reply and then, get some sort of reply... See how tiring this is?

Being a person who loves to write, I've always had a thing with letters.
Handwritten letters (oops, my brain decided to write "love letters" for me. Thank you!), in particular, are one of the most humbling, beautiful and personal things you can do. You take your time, effort, and dedication to create something for another person. You need to take your time to go to the post office to actually send it. And then you have to wait. And in the wait, you have no idea what happens! You have no idea how many people handle that letter. How many dogs it can greet in the way. How many raindrops or sunlight it catches. The only thing you know about that letter is that it was sent with hope that it would be delivered to and read by the receiver. No "read receipts", no "seen", no nothing. Just sending it, and waiting.

And this is why I wanted to make this little tangent about social media and the internet. We are way too used to having quick answers, jumping to conclusions, being driven by impulse, wanting constant attention, and constant validation. But this is not how life or the Universe works. 

Our wishes, desires, and manifestations— if you will — are like (love) letters that we send to the Universe. Some of them are delivered and replied to. Others are received and ignored. And others get lost in the way, while trying to reach their destination, because of some (shit) storms they encounter on the way. 

So, why rush things? We know life is short... But can you imagine if every time you sent a letter you followed it all the way to its destiny? Would you even need to post in the first place? Why wouldn't you just deliver it yourself? 

It's really hard to hear that things take time, I know, been there — am there — done that —doing that —, but they actually do take all the time they need. Not the time you want them to take. So, take a step back, and enjoy things while you can. Make every moment last as long as you can, and... If you want to have things delivered on your own timings, just become a postman (or postperson)! 

The Universe will give you the signs she can. But if you want, want, want your signs then and there... It just won't do.